The New Wedding Book


Plan your wedding without the weight of outdated customs and get hitched in a way that is authentic, fun, and true to who you are.

“But you’re getting married! You have to!”

That empty statement is on the other end of everything from jaw-droppingly expensive dresses, staged proposal engagement photo shoots, and reception selfie stations. From the minute they become engaged, there’s a script that couples are pressured to follow.

By breaking down the antiquated traditions of that #blessedweddingday, this book will help betrothed pairs throw the icky bridal traditions to the curb in honour of getting the wedding of their actual dreams — not the one we’ve been force-fed for decades by the wedding industrial complex.

Inspiring couples to plan their wedding in a way that is meaningful to them, The New Wedding Book debunks the “traditions,” makes sense of realistic budgets, offers brilliant advice from real-life couples, and confronts the crushing pressure for weddings to be perfect.


This book is mandatory reading for every modern woman who wants to actually enjoy her journey to marriage. It's the best time in history to be a woman with ambition — and society's wedding culture has some catching up to do. You are holding a hilarious and heart-felt permission slip and guide to plan your wedding and life on your terms.

Charreah K. Jackson, author of Boss Bride

Relationships are not one-size-fits-all, so why should weddings be? The New Wedding Book outlines the many ways you can make sure that your big day is not another generic pre-scripted event, but a dazzling reflection of your unique love.

Cynthia Loyst, bestselling author of Find Your Pleasure

We're in an age of redefinition, when so many "traditional" institutions are getting a much-needed update, and the wedding business is no exception. I've always been cringed out by the "classic" North American wedding standard, but this book takes an industry steeped in capitalist excess, heteronormativity, and conformism and shows skeptics like me that getting married can actually be an accessible, personal, and—*gasp*—romantic process, after all.

Amanda Montell, author of Wordslut and Cultish

"Women have rewritten every part of our lives, except how we marry.” This line—from Michelle Bilodeau and Karen Cleveland’s delightfully disruptive new book, The New Wedding Book: A Guide to Ditching All the Rules—struck me with the force of a 10-pound bouquet to the forehead. It’s just so true. The cultural conditioning implicit in what Bilodeau and Cleveland call the “wedding arms race” is both insidious and infantilizing. Thankfully, the newly engaged now have an excellent guide to navigating the minefield of restrictive, often inherently misogynistic rituals previously filed under “tradition.” The New Wedding Book’s mission is empowering and its tone is lively. Most importantly, its advice is practical: Once you’re all fired up, The New Wedding Book provides useful tools for how to shrug off the weight of other people’s expectations and actually follow your heart. My favourite part of this wonderful, modern, extremely timely book is the personal love stories so vivid that you can practically taste the spun sugar. Essential reading.

Laura deCarufel, Editor-in-chief, The Kit

About the Authors

Michelle Bilodeau

Posted by Kendra on April 21, 2020
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Michelle Bilodeau

Michelle Bilodeau is a writer and guest speaker. Her work has appeared in CBC Life, Fashion Magazine, The Kit, Refinery29, Flare, and Canadian Living. She is currently the green beauty expert on The Social. Michelle lives in Toronto.

Karen Cleveland

Posted by Kendra on April 21, 2020
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Karen Cleveland

Karen Cleveland is a writer and marketer. Her work has appeared in Weddingbells, Today’s Bride, Fashion Magazine, Huffington Post, Toronto Star, and the National Post. She was the etiquette expert on the first season of The Social. Karen lives in Toronto.